If you’re navigating a high-conflict divorce or custody battle, chances are you’ve felt confused, emotionally wrecked, and unsure if what you’re going through is normal. Maybe you’re questioning your own reactions. Maybe you’re afraid to make a wrong move. Maybe you’re exhausted from hearing advice that doesn’t actually help.
You’re not alone.
Most of my clients come to me in survival mode. They don’t always know what coaching is—they just know something feels off and what they’re doing isn’t working anymore.
Wait—What Is Divorce Coaching?
Divorce coaching isn’t therapy, legal advice, or venting. It’s strategic, trauma-informed support designed to help you make grounded decisions, communicate safely, and protect yourself and your children in high-conflict situations—especially when emotional abuse or coercive control are involved.
While I’m based in Massachusetts and deeply familiar with the courts, custody evaluators, and attorneys here, I work with clients across the U.S. and internationally. Abuse patterns don’t change with geography—but your strategy should reflect your reality. I help you do both.
If Any of These Sound Familiar, You Might Need a Divorce Coach
“I’m new to divorcing a narcissist, and I don’t want to make mistakes.”
You’ve realized the person you married isn’t who they pretended to be. Now you’re staring down a legal system that feels cold, confusing, and one-sided. You’re scared of being manipulated, misrepresented, or losing custody. Coaching helps you slow down, identify real risk, and avoid trauma-fueled decisions that could backfire later.
“I’m struggling with radical acceptance and managing my expectations.”
You keep hoping it’ll get easier. That maybe they’ll calm down. That this email won’t be as nasty as the last. But each interaction is another reminder: this person isn’t going to co-parent in good faith. I help you come to terms with that painful reality—without collapsing. We build a strategy around what’s real, not what’s ideal.
“I struggle with what (and how) to document.”
Everyone says “document everything,” but no one tells you what matters. Screenshots? Journals? Audio recordings? What does the court actually care about? What makes things worse? I help you create clear, court-relevant documentation—without turning your life into an evidence log.
“I’ve been using gray rock communication and it’s hurting my case.”
You’ve tried being neutral, calm, short, silent. It feels like the right thing. But now your co-parent is using your silence against you. Or you’re being seen as cold or uncooperative. We’ll adjust your communication strategy to protect your mental health and your legal position.
“I don’t understand what matters to the court system and I feel lost.”
The court doesn’t care about fairness. It cares about evidence, patterns, and what can be proven. I’ll help you stop spinning your wheels on things that don’t move the needle and start focusing on what gives you power in this system—even if it’s not the kind of justice you hoped for.
“I feel alone and no one understands—my own therapist seems baffled.”
This is one of the most common things I hear. Well-meaning therapists, friends, and even lawyers often don’t get the psychological warfare of a high-conflict divorce. I do. You don’t have to waste energy explaining or justifying what you’re feeling. You’ll be believed here.
“I’m at odds with my attorney, and I don’t feel heard.”
You’re paying someone to fight for you—but they seem dismissive, rushed, or checked out. You’re not sure if they understand the abuse or care about your child’s well-being. I help you clarify your goals, communicate effectively with your attorney, and stay emotionally anchored while navigating that power imbalance.
“I’m facing a custody evaluation and I don’t know how to prepare.”
GAL interviews. Home visits. Psychological assessments. These things can feel terrifying when the other parent is manipulative and image-conscious. I help you prepare without spiraling—so you can show up grounded, clear, and strong.
“The judge sees me as part of the problem, and I don’t know how to turn this around.”
You’ve tried to do everything right, and somehow you’re still being painted as difficult, reactive, or uncooperative. That’s not an accident. That’s how coercive control plays out in court. I help you shift the narrative by focusing on strategy, calm power, and long-term positioning—not emotional reactivity.
You’re not overreacting. You’re responding to chronic harm in a system that often can’t—or won’t—see it.
You’re Not the Problem. You’re the Target of a Pattern.
If you saw yourself in any of these, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re in something designed to destabilize you—and the system doesn’t always see it for what it is. Coaching gives you a lifeline. Not because you need to be “fixed,” but because you deserve to be supported.
You don’t have to do this alone, and you don’t have to keep guessing.