by Jessica | Jun 15, 2022 | Uncategorized
Using Canned Responses is often the first step in creating boundaries. Boundaries allow you to draw a line between you and another person – and you and yourself. However, setting boundaries in an abusive relationship is almost impossible. You’ll find...
by Jessica | Apr 5, 2022 | Uncategorized
Setting a boundary with an abusive person is almost impossible. Today we are going to go over 3 things: Why it is so hard to set boundaries with an abuserHow to regulate yourself so you can get in touch with what you need and how you feelHow to actually set a boundary...
by Jessica | Mar 22, 2022 | Uncategorized
The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy...
by Jessica | Mar 21, 2022 | Uncategorized
The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. This is the simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they claim that their victim is the...
by Jessica | Mar 15, 2022 | Uncategorized
An apology from an abuser never feels like a true apology – and you shouldn’t accept it. A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space and changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking...
by Jessica | Mar 14, 2022 | Uncategorized
How a Narcissist Uses Your Emotions to Regulate Themselves Spotting the Hoovering Techniques of a Narcissist Why Couples Therapy Doesn’t Work How Narcissists Use YOUR Nervous System to Regulate Themselves 10 Behaviors That Give Supply to a Narcissist You cannot...
by Jessica | Mar 8, 2022 | Uncategorized
Committing to outside help (there is no “working on myself by myself”) Admitting fully to what he has done Stopping excuses Stopping all blaming Making amends for what has been done Accepting responsibility (recognizing that abuse is a choice) Identifying...
by Jessica | Mar 8, 2022 | Uncategorized
“Abusive men are masters of excuse making. In this respect they are like substance abusers, who believe that everyone and everything except them is responsible for their actions.”Signs someone is not willing to change abusive behavior” – Lundy Bancroft...
by Jessica | Mar 7, 2022 | Uncategorized
This one will be short and not very sweet. The game with a Narcissist is rigged. We have NO Emotional LEVERAGE over narcissists. They do not care. They have leverage over the situation, because we care and have empathy. There is NOTHING you can do to gain emotional...
by Jessica | Mar 7, 2022 | Uncategorized
Most people don’t know how to build up their own self worth. I’ve had my own battles with self love, self worth, self-esteem and self care. I certainly didn’t resent all the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to...
