by Jessica | Feb 6, 2022 | Uncategorized
Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed because of the cycle of domestic violence. If you are in a trauma bond, I believe you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure...
by Jessica | Jan 29, 2022 | Uncategorized
Emotional and verbal abuse as displayed in the movies typically looks very overt and controlling. It’s very obvious. It can look like: telling somebody what to do, sneaking into someone else’s phone, telling them who they can see, yelling and screaming and...
by Jessica | Jan 18, 2022 | Uncategorized
Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change. This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This...
by Jessica | Jan 17, 2022 | Uncategorized
Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner can change. This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for...
by Jessica | Jan 9, 2022 | Uncategorized
My story used to sound like this: “In my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same result: an asshole with arm muscles who can go jab for jab with me but doesn’t prioritize me. I’d joke,...
by Jessica | Dec 28, 2021 | Uncategorized
My story used to sound like this (and if you’ve been a long time client of mine, you’ve likely heard it): “When I was in my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I noticed I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same...
by Jessica | Nov 10, 2021 | Uncategorized
For the past 7 years I’ve been a Quarter Life Coach, who has coached (mostly) women on all aspects of life, mainly, figuring out who you are without the influence of others, deciding what the F you want (in work, relationships, self-care, family) and choosing...
by Jessica | Nov 9, 2021 | Uncategorized
Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing. Let that one sit. You are not the victim to your own life (no matter what your head is telling you <3). Whatever you are not changing in some capacity (thoughts, actions, beliefs, limited beliefs, conversations,...
by Jessica | Nov 6, 2021 | Uncategorized
Authenticity Hangover. I think I made this phrase up (but if I didn’t please tell me who did so I can credit them). I define an “authenticity hangover” as the after effect of not being yourself. Have you ever woken up after a night out with friends...
by Jessica | Nov 5, 2021 | Uncategorized
How they treat you has nothing to do with how they actually feel about you. How they treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. If they are confusing, they are confused. If they are emotionally unavailable, it’s probably because they are. If...
