Conversations with a narcissist are exhausting, dizzying, nerve-racking, and make you feel like you’re going insane. Often people will question their own reality and their sanity. The circular conversations leave you feeling worse off than if you had never had them in the first place.
It takes a while for a person to realize they aren’t dealing with a rational person. At first, people usually will over explain themselves. Before we realize the truth about the narcissist in our lives, we relate to them as if they are normal human beings possessing integrity and some degree of self-awareness.
We trust their words because WE don’t deceive and manipulate people and trust that the people who claim to love us will do the same. We give them the benefit of the doubt because WE believe they truly love no one who truly loves us would purposely say or do anything to hurt us.
The problem is that narcissists don’t think, operate or play by the same rules as us, and our failing to recognize this sets us up for manipulation.
Conversations with a narcissist are filled with covert manipulation tactics. They will make you wish you never disagreed with them in the first place – and never even tried to have the conversation. Somehow, they manage to twist the conservation, so you wind up feeling like the bad guy/girl, while they assume the role of the innocent victim.
You need to ask yourself: is this a conversation worth having? If it is, you need to be prepared that your point of view may not be heard.
This can be really tough to work through — really tough. If you need help, reach out by emailing me or schedule a Clarity Call: https://jessicaknightcoaching.typeform.com/to/HxBGVJAk?typeform-source=jessicaknightcoaching.com