Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change.
This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people.
Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change is a deeply transformative process requiring “deep work” and committing to living amends for a lifetime.
Few men choose to take this road. Staying in your relationship because he might be changing or has committed to change may not be the best option for you.
This episode scratches the surface of what a toxic person would need to do to move from abusive to respecting you.
Here are the resources mentioned in the podcast:
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: Can He Change
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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